She didn’t change. Menopause did.
Now...it’s your turn.
A practical, emotionally intelligent guide for husbands/partners
navigating the Menopause journey together.
Menopause Wingman is the straight-talking handbook that partners of menopausal women have been waiting for. Written with humour, honesty and practical advice, this guide helps you navigate the challenges of supporting your loved one through "the change" while maintaining your sanity and strengthening your relationship. Featuring real stories and insights from partners who've been there, alongside expert guidance, Menopause Wingman transforms confusion into confidence with actionable strategies, unexpected laughs, genuine compassion and empathy. Whether you're just beginning this journey or already in the thick of it, this book is your trusted companion for one of life's most misunderstood, emotional hormonal transitions.
WHO THIS BOOK IS FOR?
It gives men the understanding and tools they need to support the women they love — and in doing so, strengthens women-centred menopause care rather than competing with it.”
PERSONAL WELCOME NOTE FROM MICHELLE
If you’ve landed here, something brought you. Maybe she asked you to look it up. Maybe a mate mentioned it. Maybe you typed something into Google at midnight because you didn’t know what else to do.
Whatever the reason - I’m glad you’re here.
I’m Michelle. I’ve spent over 25 years working with people through the hardest moments of their lives. And for the last decade, Menopause has been at the centre of my work (not just professionally but personally).
I know what it does to a woman. I know what it does to the people who love her.
This book exists because of a man named Richard. He told me his relationship might have survived menopause if a book like this had existed. I never forgot that. This is that book. And you’re already doing the right thing by being here.
Michelle
A NOTE FOR HER
If you’re the woman in this picture, hello.
This site is mostly written for the men beside us. But I see you too. If you’re wondering whether to share this with your partner, the answer is probably yes. Not because he needs fixing. Because he loves you and doesn’t know how to say it right now.
There’s also support here for you directly. Visit the About page to find out about working with Michelle one-to-one.
WHY THIS BOOK EXISTS
It started with a chance encounter. Michelle was chatting with a man named Richard in an online networking event. When she mentioned her work in menopause, he stopped her saying:
My relationship might have survived if something like that had existed.”
Michelle didn’t forget that conversation. Because Richard wasn’t alone. In 25+ years of practice, Michelle had seen it again and again. The women were struggling. The men beside them were lost. Not uncaring, not unwilling - just lost. No one had spoken to them. No book existed for them.
So Michelle asked men from around the world, to share their experience. Their voices are woven throughout. Man to man. Honest and unfiltered. Menopause Wingman is the result. It’s for every man who wants to do better than Richard could.
NOT READY TO PRE-ORDER YET? START HERE. IT'S FREE!
Before you commit to the book, get a taste of what’s inside. “Are You Ready to Be Her Wingman?” is a free 10-page guide drawn from Menopause Wingman.
It covers five of the biggest themes men face when supporting a partner through menopause. It includes a quick self-assessment so you can see where you’re already showing up - and where the book can help most. It also includes real quotes from the men who shared their experiences to make this book possible. Honest, unfiltered and written man to man. No jargon. No pressure. Just the information you actually need.
What’s inside the free guide:
- Understanding what she’s going through - and why it’s not about you
- Getting the emotional stuff right
- Intimacy - changing, not disappearing
- Communication that actually works
- Looking after yourself too
- A self-assessment: your Wingman Check-In
- Wingmen Field Notes - real quotes from real men
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Menopause Wingman: The book that turns
‘I don’t know what to do’ into ‘I’ve got you.’